Sunday, April 29, 2018

Peeling the Veneer

She started to doubt G-d, and to doubt the purpose and point of all the rules that religious Jews keep. In her secret soul, she started to wonder what good it was doing her…


Rochel has been having a very hard few years. Like many of us, she didn't grow up religious, but she got interested in Judaism while she was still a young woman, and ended up marrying a religious returnee, like herself.

They did what religious people are meant to do, and moved into a religious neighborhood and had a lot of kids very quickly. Rochel was very obedient, and did everything she was told to do. She didn't always believe in what she was doing, she didn't always understand what she was doing, but she still went along with it, did what she was told, and didn't ask any questions.

Then, three years ago, she and her husband experienced what psychologists describe as the highest stressor there is – the death of a child.  Understandably, this was an incredibly difficult experience for Rochel, and in many ways, it broke her completely.

She started to doubt G-d, and to doubt the purpose and point of all the rules that religious Jews keep. In her secret soul, she started to wonder what good it was doing her, or the world, for that matter, to be keeping all these “arcane” laws. From the outside, it's easy to see that Rochel was incredibly angry with G-d, and with Judaism, after the death of her son. But Rochel herself didn't really understand what was happening to her. All she knew is that secretly, she started to break the Sabbath.

Monday, February 26, 2018

Healing from Anxiety

What is the source of these difficulties and how can a person grow past them?


Thursday, February 8, 2018

The Other Woman

Imagine driving up to your house…you park the car…you walk through the front door…and you are stopped by the feeling that you’re in the wrong house. You look around and everything’s been changed: the furniture, the wall hangings, the carpeting – none of it is what you knew growing up. It’s all alien to you. Reluctantly, you step into your mother’s kitchen, the source of so many loving memories, and then it’s a complete mess…spoiled food and dirty dishes are piled everywhere. Never once did your mother’s kitchen look like this!

This is an actual description of what people can go through after their parent’s divorce or one parent dies and remarries. The home you once knew gets “remodeled” to enable the new couple to kick off their new life together unencumbered by the past.

Tuesday, February 6, 2018

Thoughts About Thinking



Psychologists have studied the way we think, and they've discovered that whatever we think about the most frequently, that's what we think is the “truth”. To put it another way, the ideas and thoughts we are most familiar with seem the most “true” to us, whereas we will question less familiar or frequent thoughts, and ask a lot more questions about whether they are really true.

Let's see how this works in practice: Let's say that you're someone who is used to thinking a lot of negative, discouraging thoughts. You read something, or you had a discussion with someone, which explained how great it is to talk to G-d every day, or how wonderful it would be to adopt a more spiritual approach to living your life and solving your problems. This is a new idea, a new way of thinking.

Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Children of Prophets



The Jewish people are the “children of prophets.” (Talmud)

“I will dwell in their midst.” (Exodus 25:8)

You have a genetic predisposition to think and imagine far beyond the everyday mundane happenings of your life and the physical world around you.  Your inborn capacity for faith is very strong, but it needs to be nurtured and cultivated in order to bring it out.

To bring out your faith you need quiet time away from this noisy world. Why should you miss out and fail to believe in your spiritual powers and their development just because you haven’t learned how to fully utilize them?

Breathe...


Energy levels, mental clarity and emotional calmness improve with proper breathing. In addition, there are so many amazing spiritual benefits to breathing correctly...

How important is it to breath properly? I had no idea! Of course, like most people, I knew that proper breathing is more conducive to good health. As a psychotherapist I’ve spent a lot of time observing the constricted breathing of people who are stressed out - I’ve also noticed how their energy levels, mental clarity and emotional calmness improve when they return to proper breathing.  But I had no idea there were so many amazing spiritual benefits to breathing correctly and how it can so quickly and powerfully change a person’s whole way of life. I want to share a meditation with you that I developed originally to help myself. I can’t put into words what it has done for me; how many ways it has helped me. I hope it will do the same for you… Read more here..


Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Mirror on the Wall


My friend was enjoying the book until we came to a fundamental principle of marriage based on the teachings of the Ariza'l which caused his eyeballs to pop out of their sockets....